The Attitude Of Gratitude

Good Day
Scary but a sad reality. It has been years since I took the time to add another blog about this gay guy which started his blog in 2011. Guess it is time for another blog post. I would like to chat about The Attitude Of Gratitude today.

My Life has seen a copious amount of ups and downs from 2013 to date. My career changed, my needs changed, my whole life changed to be quite honest. I went from working for an employer to working for myself. Surprisingly even my detrimental love life took a turn for the better. I have been working on a committed long-term relationship for about just short of a year now and even more surprisingly with the same stunning individual.

Career Update
Well I inevitably resigned from my position as National Sales Manager at the IT company I spent a considerable amount of time at. This episode was one of the best opportunities which made itself prevalent at a very pivotal time in my life. I went from executive management to educating myself in the field again with active sales experience. This was a mindset to which I had to adapt to but luckily I managed to do so with ease. The Sales opportunity pushed me to empower me by bringing 57% revenue into a company where my cv was the weakest.

I wanted to be number ONE and achieved that goal. Needless to say, I nearly became a monster in doing so. May I just mention that I will be forever grateful for the things I learned in the time I felt the urge to push myself. After realizing what I was busy turning into I needed to force myself to make urgent changes to find my core and revive the old person I used to be. I had no idea what to do with regards to finding my solace again however life whispered to me and I listened. An extraordinary opportunity presented itself by accident I think...

Entrepreneurship knocked on my door and this opportunity was taken with scepticism at first. Things started to fall into place without me even comprehending what I was about to tackle. Being that gay guy refusing to give up I continued to proceed with what I thought best with the famous Lenovo slogan "For those who just DO" driving me from pillar to post. Actions and ideas started to turn into a new reality leading to a chapter called BAX2BIZ - YOUR BUSINESS LIFEGUARD. This to me was just a dream or rather a conversation with my dear life partner Wynand stemming from a casual chat a week before my new opportunity came to life.

I was scared of making the same mistakes and had so much to learn but in desperate and urgent need of money. Currently I am still working on this gift life gave me and hope it will continue to keep on growing. In the spirit of The Attitude Of Gratitude let me take the time to say thank you to the powers that be...


Love Life Gossip
Well as mentioned before, there is another half or rather a partner in my life making me feel complete. We have been together for 40 days short of a year now and started sharing a chapter called LOVE together. You are right in thinking that I potentially might have roofied him into staying but this was not the case. This beautiful person who came into my life made the decision to stick through the good times and the bad times. I can only say thank you for this blessing and embrace each day I have the privilege of spending a life with Wynand. Like all relationships we have our ups and downs but proud to say more good times than bad times. We experienced rich days and poor days, but at least one thing stayed consistent... the love and respect for each other never has never taken the back seat and this my contribution to The Attitude Of Gratitude.

Enough said for now as I conclude this blog and continue to be a gay guy living "Life in the GAY fast lane..."

Interracial Dating

Shoh, it has been ages since I have actually blogged, how embarrassing!!! Well, I have met someone, a special “K”, are we dating? I am not so sure yet. We meet up on a regular basis and we share a lot, he even said “I LOVE YOU”, yet he has not yet asked me out, I have asked him, still waiting for the “yes”. I like him and I think the feeling is mutual, I just smell commitment issues.

He is Indian, and obviously I am not, this was a huge mind-set for me to overcome, but the respect from him made this so much more easy, is the public in RSA ready for it, I think so.

Let’s see how this pans out and how the interracial bond grows and evolves as life in the GAY fast lane…

 

 

Growth 2012

That time again, magic fingers to the notebook keys, “GROWTH”…

Overall Growth

So much has happened in this time I haven’t blogged.  I grew, older, wiser, bigger and better. I moved into a bigger place, moved up a step in my career and met new people, got a new flatmate (he is a blog post alone, old Johanna) and deleted some old friends I knew for years.

Work Growth

Moved from IT Engineer to Sales (Account Manager), what a new challenge and I like it. My new team is excellent and they have spunk. We also got a new Divisional Manager which makes things happen, bonus I guess. This is my short blog regarding work.

Personal Growth

Men came and went, no pun intended, but no one really stuck around, luckily there is some potential out there…  Which made me to believe it is not a futile attempt in finding that special person to call your own. I will have to keep my peeps updated regarding this palava…

So to close this blog in a nutshell, we all have to grow, it is the way you choose to grow that makes you a survivor in “Life in the GAY FAST LANE”.

Lee B

xoxo

Gay man and his BFF

In the world of technology and web surfing it is so easy to find new friends, or is it really? In the life of a gay man so called friends come and go… Today, best friends, and 4 years down the line, that sharp pain in the back as the knife gets turned and turn and once more turned. Other so called BFF move on as priorities change, from drinking games and mischief with you to drinking games with their lovers. But where does one draw the line of friendship, should good friends be able to tell each other if they need help, example “buddy you are losing the plot here, I suggest you go see a psychologist”. Does that make you a bad person for saying that? Anyhow, I got my fingers now recently burnt with a friend of 4 years, drugs, betrayal and lies was the end all for me. That is why I, a man living "live in the GAY fast lane” moved on and found other happiness…

Lovers, ex’es and their issues…

Once again we put pen to paper, or rather in a blogger’s case, French tips to the keyboard to tell another story. Today I blog about ex-lovers… I had to once again urge myself not to lose my temper as a guy I dated called, “sorry, I made a mistake and want you back”, we were together 4 years… Biting on my teeth with the voice in my head telling me “A lady only screams when it slips out” I listened to his plea and apology, but after 4 years and separated for 2, does he really think I will contemplate to go back, NEVER.
I do believe in second chances but he had 3 already, and like I always say “for every issue, there’s a tissue”, well he has used a box since I have known him… LOL… I just wished him all the luck he deserves, I will not say more on my opinion of the above mentioned statement but ended the conversation civil.

He is after all a guy living “life in the GAY fast lane”

Emotions…

This is a man, virile, does he know about crying? No, the man is a beast, hunter. Hunters are men, hunting the beast. This is the man, virile, does he know about sharing? No, only sissies are sharing, playing solo. Playing solo are for men, playing against the sissies. This is the man, virile, does he know about living? Yes, this is the man, virile, living a “life in the GAY fast lane”
Is this a man, or is this a beast? What are emotions to gay men? Are we in touch with it? Can you identify with some? “Just turn around and pass out after you had your turn 1st” Or is there actually more to you? Are you the man, virile, living “life in the GAY fast lane?”

Gay men and electricity

Here in our humble abode the electricity went off. There was nothing else but frenzy in the house. My housemates Dolly D and Dolly K running around, what to do, what to do... Dolly D being himself, cursing our government and Dolly K following along, like shepherd and sheep. Dolly L (me) always calm composed and relaxed... The late lunch had to get finished and we were stuck without means to do so. Thank goodness to take away shops… These are housemates and men that live “life in the GAY fast lane”